Whenever I click on a server it says that it cant associate the protocol to a program.
and I cant find the program in the list so I cant associate it to anything any help would be appreciated.

It may be worth trying this:
http://ace-spades.com/forums/topic.php?id=2273#post-27981

Do as Lexsym said - create the .bat file and place it in your Ace of Spades folder.

To join a specific server, you must change that .bat file to have a different url.

To get the URL of a server you want to join, just right-click on that server link in the Play page list, and select 'Copy link address' (or the similar in your browser) and paste that in place of the example url Lexsym put inside the file. Then just double-click/run your .bat file and it should load up the game (worked for me!).

If that doesn't work at all, report back.